At least once in their lifetime, everyone asks themselves these questions, “Why does it always happen to me?” “Why me?” or “Why does it always have to be me?” There are times when people hit the low point in their lives more than once and there are people who have been the target of some things they did not ask for repetitively. At times like these such questions arise in people’s mind. It is very difficult to receive answers for such questions as these questions are generally directed towards the universe.
“If there is a will, there is a way” Everyone must have come across this quote at least once in their lifetime. What does it mean? It means that if you are willing to achieve something with all your heart and sincerity, you will always get a way to achieve it. But it is your responsibility to find that way. It will not be given you on a silver platter; you will have to look for it yourself. A powerful will is required to pave your own paths and have the courage to walk on it. Finding your goals in life is important as that will give you a purpose in life.
Persuasion is an art. Learning this art requires lot of practice. Anyone could throw in a list of big words for you to use in your content of discussion, speech, lecture, etc., but if you do not understand the reason for which you are saying them, you will not prove to be persuasive. Persuasion is all about the way you present your content, there are some valuable words and phrases you can make use of to help you convince people and make them understand your point of view. Persuasion is an important art to possess as it will help you life at every turn. Besides being a good speaker, you need to be persuasive. You need to make sure your message is reaching across and provokes the listeners to take action.
Have you ever felt that something is always holding you back from achieving something or gaining success? Well, it is nothing, but yourself who is holding you back. There are certain things and actions you perform unintentionally which hold you back. There is no one, but yourself to blame for your delay in an achievement and success. There are certain points that keep you from moving higher in your life.
People often do not set high goals for themselves for certain reasons. These reasons can be reasonable or totally unreasonable. Some of the reasons go like “it is not for me”, “it is just the beginning”, “it is out of my league” or “it is impossible”. We do not understand that even if we fail, we have somehow achieved something. We have achieved experience, wisdom, knowledge, etc. we learn from our mistakes and these mistakes encourage us to do better. Aiming for something higher in life will only help us in the future.
A decision can be defined as an action taken in a situation of uncertainty. When you are faced with a choice between many courses of action, and you select one path based on the information available to you, then you are said to have taken a decision. If you reach this decision soon, then you are called decisive. However, if you take too much time to think what course of action to take, you are said to be facing analysis paralysis. Analysis paralysis or paralysis by analysis is a phenomenon that happens when you over-analyze a problem so much that you are not able to take a decision to get rid of it.
Do you remember the positive affirmations our parents drilled into us when we were kids? They used to tell us to study hard, get good grades in school and college so that we can get a good job and subsequently a good life. They were creating a picture of positivity in our mind, which would help us work hard. They acted as motivators for us to do well in our studies. They helped make all our thoughts positive so that the end could be positive. Such affirmations assisted us in enhancing our performance in our studies. They tried to create a positive image of our future life, in our minds so that our body would automatically move towards that endeavor.
What is Positivity?
Positivity is the experience of feel good emotions. Some common positive emotions are gratitude, joy, love, amusement, inspiration and awe. Positivity comes into our lives when we do certain activities. For example, some people like to take long walks, by doing which they become positive. Still some others listen to music and become positive. Positivity is a result of good thoughts or good circumstances. This means positivity can result from both internal and external stimuli. Internal stimuli to experience positivity are gratitude, joy, etc. External stimuli are obtaining inspiration by looking at someone or reading about someone. Sports people who want to lift their performance resort to external stimuli for the same.
At some point in life, everyone faces criticism. The result of criticism depends on how the person reacts to it. It can both improve the confidence in a positive way and make the person better or it can lower the confidence and make the person stressful and worse. While everyone faces criticism, the way a person handles it makes all the difference.
Emotional abuse is another form of mental abuse. Many times victims do not realize that they are in an emotionally abusive relationship. While physical abuse uses violent forms for traumatizing the victim physically, emotional abuse intimidates the victim, demeans, punishes, and makes the victim feel humiliated or scared. Sometimes even name-calling, yelling and screaming at the victim is also involved. The ill effects of emotional abuse include the victim feeling depressed, confused, difficulty in concentrating, feeling worthless and sometimes lead to poor physical health also. The characteristics of an emotionally abusive person are the desire to gain control over the victim and manipulate them as per their wish.