The golden rule says:  “Treat others how you want to be treated.”

However, this saying goes beyond being considerate to people or going out of your way to be helpful to those in need. Instead of treating others the way you wish to be treated, think about others the way you wish to be thought of,speak to others the way you want to be spoken to, and feel about others the way you want others to feel about you.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you

If someone believes he is doing the right thing by trying to become invasive in another’s life, first try to understand how that person feels his actions would reap a result. Then, help him evaluate the consequences or maybe choose a better way to achieve his goals and consider the goals of others. Always be a patient listener and considerate of other’s needs as well.

Feel about others how you want them to feel about you

Holding onto negative feelings will only destroy your inner peace and make difficult for you to feel love and compassion. Whether or not you bear responsibility in someone else’s harsh feelings toward you, knowing these feelings exist is unpleasant.

Speak to others how you would like to be spoken to

Do not speak disparagingly about anyone just because you disapprove of them. Everyone is different and cannot be fit into the box of our needs, comfort, and understanding. Speak well of others, a result of positive thinking that would positively affect your life. Don’t poison your mind by thinking negatively about others as it will affect you and your life more than the other person.


Make an effort to respect even the unrespectable

Find something in a person that is positive and focus on that. There might be circumstances in which you were the bad guy, and others made no effort to understand you, rather they went out of their way to demolish your reputation. Do not follow them ever, even if you feel it is just or deserved. You do not know what motivates other’s actions. All you can do is take responsibility for your response to the situation and choose to show respect when it is hard to find. Not only will this make you a better person, it will show others your true integrity and make it impossible to doubt yours if it is threatened in the future.

Think of others the way you would like to be thought of

Refrain from thinking, or speaking badly of someone, particularly if you feel you are better than them. Thinking of yourself as superior as or better than another person is not a positive way of thinking. If you would like to help someone you think is less fortunate, do it out of love and not pity.

Treating others is a culmination of your perspective and attitude towards other people. In other words, treating others positively brings happiness and helps forge useful connections leading to a good repute in the society.