As childish as it seems, revenge can be very dangerous. Some people have a mindset in which they believe that revenge is the only way of attaining peace when we have been hurt or cheated upon. However, that is not completely true. We often get the feeling to avenge someone when we have been deeply hurt. The hatred that we feel inside us, the pain, and the treacherous heartbreak sometimes leads us into believing that revenge is going to solve all of our bad feelings that were the outcome of such hatred. We feel that it is going to bring us peace when in fact; it brings us nothing, but shame.
We have often heard the famous quote, ’Hard work is the key to success’ and it has been set to our minds from ever since we can imagine. But, through personal experiences, everyone has an idea that that quote is in fact, true. Nothing brings success like working hard for anything that we wish to achieve.
When a person achieves the goals he sets for himself; he is deemed to be a winner in his own eyes. Similarly, when he fulfills the goals that are set for him by others, then he is a winner in the eyes of others as well. Here an imperative question comes up, which is, how can one become a winner? This article attempts to elaborate what winners do to win, whether it is in life, in their jobs or their respective endeavors.
“Change before you have to.” – Jack Welch
Like the quote says, change before it is necessary to change. This is very much applicable to improving the sales goals of a company.
A business model is a system in which ideas, people, and products come together to generate revenue. Your business model isn’t your product, your people, your price, or your value propositions. It’s all of it, working together. Laying it all out can help you find opportunities for growth, discover what’s not working as it should, and strengthen your own understanding of just how your business works.
For a tree to grow, you require a seed first. But if you don’t water it and give it sunlight, it will never grow. The only plant that grows in arid areas is a cactus and you hurt yourself on its needles while extracting nourishment from it. The same holds true for relationships. It’s the easiest thing in the world to start a relationship. But there is a huge difference between a ‘relationship’, a ‘smooth relationship’ and a ‘prickly relationship.’ There is a saying, ‘As you sow, so shall you reap,’ and nothing could be truer of a relationship. It’s not something that grows by itself, stays engaging only because the seed is sown. A relationship is one of the most important things in our lives yet we take it for granted most of the time. We stop investing in people close to us and see it as a drain to constantly give to them when in actuality you’re reaping the rewards of it.
The golden rule says: “Treat others how you want to be treated.”
However, this saying goes beyond being considerate to people or going out of your way to be helpful to those in need. Instead of treating others the way you wish to be treated, think about others the way you wish to be thought of,speak to others the way you want to be spoken to, and feel about others the way you want others to feel about you.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you
If someone believes he is doing the right thing by trying to become invasive in another’s life, first try to understand how that person feels his actions would reap a result. Then, help him evaluate the consequences or maybe choose a better way to achieve his goals and consider the goals of others. Always be a patient listener and considerate of other’s needs as well.
Feel about others how you want them to feel about you
Holding onto negative feelings will only destroy your inner peace and make difficult for you to feel love and compassion. Whether or not you bear responsibility in someone else’s harsh feelings toward you, knowing these feelings exist is unpleasant.
Speak to others how you would like to be spoken to
Do not speak disparagingly about anyone just because you disapprove of them. Everyone is different and cannot be fit into the box of our needs, comfort, and understanding. Speak well of others, a result of positive thinking that would positively affect your life. Don’t poison your mind by thinking negatively about others as it will affect you and your life more than the other person.
Make an effort to respect even the unrespectable
Find something in a person that is positive and focus on that. There might be circumstances in which you were the bad guy, and others made no effort to understand you, rather they went out of their way to demolish your reputation. Do not follow them ever, even if you feel it is just or deserved. You do not know what motivates other’s actions. All you can do is take responsibility for your response to the situation and choose to show respect when it is hard to find. Not only will this make you a better person, it will show others your true integrity and make it impossible to doubt yours if it is threatened in the future.
Think of others the way you would like to be thought of
Refrain from thinking, or speaking badly of someone, particularly if you feel you are better than them. Thinking of yourself as superior as or better than another person is not a positive way of thinking. If you would like to help someone you think is less fortunate, do it out of love and not pity.
Treating others is a culmination of your perspective and attitude towards other people. In other words, treating others positively brings happiness and helps forge useful connections leading to a good repute in the society.
“You are what you think. All that you are arises from your thoughts. With your thoughts, you make your world.” – Buddha
Thinking is a creative power. Your physical body is the manifestation of the use of your creative thinking ability. Hence, right thinking leads to right results. Your thoughts are the most important tool you possess to achieve your dreams. They affect you in several ways- good and bad. The truth is, whether you admit or not, your thoughts are responsible for whatever situation you are in right now. Your thoughts drive your life just as electricity drives a motor. Therefore, it’s of extreme importance to have the right thoughts and to not let negativity poison your mind.
We always presume that what we say affects others to a great extent. However, we forget that the greatest impact of our words in on us. We eat our own words. Words are wonderful and, when said in a proper manner, can be soothing, encouraging and peaceful. It is amazing how mere words can be life-changing for a lot of people. Words are the most powerful thing on Earth. By speaking the right words, we can build joyful relationships with people.However, we can ruin relationships easily by speaking the wrong words. Words, through their impact on us and people around us, can affect our mental, emotional and physical strength.
It is normal to want to love another person and have them love you back. There is nothing better in this world than to have someone to love and to be loved. It takes hard work, dedication and efforts to make a relationship work.It is because of these reasons that why most relationships fail. Some people are less involved than you are and behave as if they are emotionally handicapped.